How do we cope with being successful?

It's difficult this business of being near the top of the league. Should we be grateful at getting a point at Chelsea or fuming because an incorrect penalty decision cost WHU two points and kept West Ham out of the top four? Should we be grateful to get a draw at Man United in the FA Cup or fuming that the ref missed Schweinsteiger's push on Randolph, this contributing to our fixture congestion and affecting our Champions League bid. Should we be really annoyed when envious teams like Man United and Chelsea raise their game against Champions League contenders? Should we be targeting the Cup, the Champions League or the Europa League? And is it safe to say we're too good to go down yet? I'm confused, as I guess a lot of fans must be.